What do you think? I know that for friends or acquaintances, when I meet someone who has also moved around during their childhood, we straight away have a connection. We can talk about the experience, the cities we’ve lived in, international schools, the lack of friends we are still in touch with, and all the rest! I have to say it’s been quite rare for me to meet Third Culture Kid guys. And on the rare occasion I have met TCK guys who could have been potentials for dates, and by that I mean attractive, my age, and charming… Well, they were quite arrogant. Ok, I am generalizing, and I have definitely not met enough TCK guys to even make a point of this. But that is only because those are the ones I’ve come across.
When I was in Boston, I would go to bars and pubs and meet American guys, mostly guys who had spent their whole life in Boston or Providence, and there would be either of two reactions. The first was a fascination for my background. They found it exotic, sexy, different, the unknown for them. And to be honest, this is not that appealing, as we know, as TCKs that we don’t feel ‘exotic’; we are who we are, fair enough different but not ‘exotic’. ‘Sexy’- well, that’s subjective ! And the second reaction is complete disinterest. You know that look of ‘oh right’ and then the ‘turn around’. Too different. Not that cool. And I don’t want to make the effort to care. Let’s be honest. That kind of guy might act like that with all girls, TCK or not. But since I often had this reaction, I started feeling as if the two were connected. What would you say? Do you feel the same way? Do you get the same reaction when you answer their questions about where you’re from and they find out you’re a TCK?