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Third Culture Kid Dating; adults who have spent their developmental years outside their parent's culture

Tell me about your insecurities…

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Now, I don’t know about you – but if a stranger said that to me, I’d cringe. 

I think it’s safe to say the majority of us have some insecurities. They can be large or small, many or few. It doesn’t make us a desperate or insecure person. It just means that we can sometimes have negative thoughts and beliefs about ourselves.  

Even if you’re a well-rounded, confident and competent individual, it doesn’t mean that you don’t get the odd negative belief about yourself once in a while. Take a moment to think about what makes you feel insecure. When do you have negative beliefs about yourself? How do those make you feel?  How do these affect your romantic relationship?

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It seems insecurities can have a negative impact on the relationship we have with our partner. Relationship researchers Rose and Bellavia found that individuals who struggle with self-doubt will have less satisfying relationships due to their cautiousness and inability to find comfort and security within the relationship.[1] They explain how being in a relationship ultimately leads to the potential threat of losing said person and in turn losing that sense of belonging. 

With this threat to the self, it is unsurprising that we can have doubts creep up at times. However, what Rose and Bellavia stress is that those people who have especially negative models of themselves are more likely to act …

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