Who was the last person you dated? Ok, now that you have them in your mind, can you remember how similar they were to you? If you’re currently dating someone, ask yourself the same question. There are opposing views in terms of whether it’s better to date someone similar or different to you. A prominent study, cited frequently with regards to this topic, was conducted by Donn Byrne is 1971, almost 40 years ago. His findings showed that similarities in partners are linked to attraction and high-quality relationships.
I believe the reason this argument has been debated over and over again is because it’s so difficult to distinguish which similarities we’re referring to. And, more importantly, it’s hard to know if anyone has a good enough perception of themselves, let alone their partner, to be able to determine how similar they really are.
I believe you can already divide similarities into two categories. You could look at the socio-economic characteristics to decide whether someone is different to you. Or you could focus solely on personality traits. Who’s to say that one of these is not more influential than the other on attraction and relationships? For example…
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