I remember so many times when I was single and dating that people would ask me: How are you still single? You’re great. That would drive me nuts. It doesn’t work like that, does it? I’d rather they not say anything. It’s about so many other things. It’s about timing, chance, time you have to dedicate to it, and focus. Sometimes someone might really like you for instance, and that could have started a relationship there and then. But you’re simply not attracted to them. Or you go on a first date, but just don’t feel it. You’re bored on that date. You don’t feel a spark. And even though you get that text, you simply send a polite text back about having had a nice time and staying friends. Well, I’m sorry but, that’s one of the reasons people are still single. Because they don’t want to settle. And they haven’t met a person yet who makes them laugh like crazy and feel like they can be themselves. They haven’t met someone who they admire. Who they like. Doesn’t mean they’re not going on dates and meeting people who like them!
You might have that guy friend whose always showed you that he’s into you, but again you’re just not that into him. It’s funny because people always forget all of the people that DID fall for them. Hard. Who called them after that night out. Who texted them. Who wanted a second date. Who wanted to be with them. It’s almost as if those guys count less in your memory in terms of how successful you are at dating. Well, hello, you are doing well. It’s just that you’re not into them.
We ignore the ones who did fall for us, and we only think about the few who didn’t text back. And I’m sure, your automatic thought will be that, no that doesn’t happen to me: I can’t remember the last guy who was into me. But then you’ll realize, there was that guy at uni who kept following me around. But since you weren’t interested in him, you didn’t make a mental note of him as someone who liked you. Or that guy at work who spent a lot more time than necessary chatting to you at your desk. Asking if you might have some time to go for a coffee or tea. Again, since you weren’t into him, you didn’t acknowledge him as a guy who liked you. Instead you’re focused on the fact that you haven’t had any luck with guys. Well, maybe you haven’t met someone you fancy who likes you back. But a good thing to remember is all of those who felt you’d rocked their world. They just didn’t rock yours.
Well, see, sometimes you have to remember those ones and those times. To make you think. No, it’s not only me. Yes, there are things you can always do to improve your chances of meeting someone. But remember those guys who were falling head over heels for you. You’re fantastic. You just haven’t met the guy who you like… and of course who realizes you’re awesome.